Love is a very complex feeling. It can affect you physically, emotionally, spiritually. Love can make you feel complete. Love can break your heart. Love can make you say stupid things, or do stupid things. Love can make you try things you never thought you'd try. Love can define you. Love can make you into the person you have always wanted to be; or it can turn you into your own worst enemy. The crazy thing about love is that we all crave it, and we all need it, but it's up to us to determine how we want it to impact our lives.
We have all seen the "perfect" couple, the one we secretly wish would have a major blow-out in front of all of their friends proving that they are human, and of course, providing us with vindication. We have also seen the "world's worst" couple, two people who have nothing in common, can't agree on anything, and simply make those around them miserable. Then there's those relationships that are "one-sided," where one person is simply in it because they can be, and the other is convinced that they are with "the one." I blame both people in this situation, one for leading the other person on, and the other for not having the courage, or the where-with-all, to see how delusional the relationship really is.
Then there are those couples that are neither perfect nor horrible; I like to think we fall into that category - as do most of our friends and family. I like to think that we have a good balance of complete harmony, and complete chaos. We make each other laugh more often than not, but we certainly do fight. However, when those fights take place, we tend to fight fair (except I occassionally hit below the belt), and we always make-up. One of us (usually me) admits fault, and the whole thing is over. That part is incredibly important; being able to recognize when you were wrong, then admitting it. The other person has to then give-in and forgive the other person. Then the whole cycle starts all over again.
Part of being in a good, healthy relationship is being able to argue amicably, and then come to an agreement. Let's face it, we are not always going to agree; life would be far too boring if we did. You have to be able to compromise, and see things through the eyes of your partner. That's part of loving someone else. And sometimes, you just apologize for something, even when you know you are right, simply to move on. You have to pick your battles, and you have to know when to simply relent the situation. That's what love is all about. Love is patient. Love is kind. And love doesn't give a shit who is right or wrong. Duke it out, laugh your butt off, and live your life filled with Love.
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